My views on dating are not in accordance with the way society views dating. It is not my intention to diminish the act of what society has labeled "dating" nor to downplay anyone's lifestyle. My life standards differ from most people's so please keep in mind that you are reading a blog detailing my personal views and experiences which in no way indicate how you should or should not live your life.

Dating to me seems silly. I do not believe that I need to "find" that "special someone" to be in a relationship with. If it happens along my life's path, great! If not, no loss. I don't believe in meeting up with random people in order to see if they will be a "good match" for me. The whole idea seems ridiculous to me. I believe that the best relationships are built on solid foundations of friendship and for me that means never getting into a relationship with someone I have met for the purpose of future romance.

Dating for trans* people in general is often hard perhaps because they feel obligated to disclose their trans* status or face rejection or even violence once it is discovered. On one hand, I do not believe that anyone should have to disclose the fact that they were born with a physical body that differs from what is "expected." That is, however, an idealistic rather than realistic view. The reality of this world is that there are many people who are not going to be okay with dating someone who is trans*. I personally find this a sad testament to how our society has developed.

I will never run into disclosure problems of that nature simply because I don't date people and would never get romantically involved with someone who did not already know. I don't hide being transgendered having been born with a female body and if I am going to get romantically involved with someone, they have to already be a good friend. On top of that I don't get involved with people who don't share the same high level of existence, awareness and spirituality that I do.

I don't really have much advice for trans* people who wish to date other people, except that if you are going to date people and you choose not to disclose your trans* status before getting attached or serious, make sure you date people whom you already know to be trans-friendly and perhaps it won't be much of an issue.