So, everyone asks me what restroom I use. Well, not to be an asshole but it should be obvious that I use the men's room. There are so many FTM guys who are paranoid about using the men's room both before and after starting hormones, but I can assure you that when you go into the restroom to do your business, no one gives a flying crap. Go in, do your business, and get out. I must say that I am very disappointed with the bad advice given to a lot of newly transitioning guys on the internet regarding what to do and what not to do in a public restroom. Holy fuck, people, wash your hands! I don't care what smart ass "experienced FTM" tells you - wash your motherfucking hands. Yes, men wash their hands after using the restroom. Maybe not all men, but clean ones do.

Some say that it is an unspoken rule that men don't talk in the restroom. This couldn't be further form the truth. No, you're not going to be scrutinized if you speak to someone in the restroom, even if it's a stranger. No one is going to gut you for making eye contact with them, either. Unless they're taking a crap. But hello? That has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with respect. Just be yourself. If you're the type to make eye contact with people you pass, politely nod and hold doors open for people, for Christ's sake, don't be an asshole when you enter the restroom. Your experiences are all shaped by your attitude.

Also regarding restroom use - men are pigs, so get used to the fact that you will get someone else's piss on the back of your pants if you sit down. I am now convinced that 90% of men are raised in a barn. Another piece of advice - DON'T lift up the toilet seat when you piss. No, seriously, don't. I'll tell you why. When guys lift the seat up to piss, they do that because they don't want to splash piss all over the seat for the next person. But what your parents didn't tell you is that just because you lift up the seat doesn't mean you're not making a mess, and just because the mess is under the lid doesn't mean you are absolved from the duty of cleaning it up. No. On the contrary. When you lift the seat up to piss, you are splashing it all over the underside of the toilet. Who do you think has to clean that up? Do us all a favor, people, and when you use the toilet, clean up after yourself no matter what. If you don't lift the seat up, you will feel morally obligated to clean up any mess you make.